In our society, what is seen in the future bride and groom before getting married? Height, Nain map, education, complexion, family, physical appearance and job. Nothing more than this. That's why Indian marriages are completely dependent on luck. If luck is right then everything is fine otherwise you know your condition. Whereas above things do not make much difference on married life. Health. That's why nowadays many such cases are coming where in the complete absence of all these marriages are taking the form of ruin. Although it used to happen earlier also, this is not a matter of today and deception can happen from both the sides. There is no difference between boy and girl. But the new thing is that today people are vocal. Earlier people used to hide. And why not hide it? On whose strength you should protest, when your own parents do not support you. They can be together, but most of the deceived victims were girls then and it is still the same thing. Earlier it was believed that if you get married now, then you should do it, no matter what happens. Even if you get married to an impotent ,or The husband's second wife or mistress or husband is an alcoholic, violent or eccentric. Now he has to live there. It used to happen with boys too but comparatively less. The only reason is that it is necessary to label marriage up to a certain age. Otherwise, what would the society say?
Apart from this, nowadays there are some such couples who are fine separately but not at all worth living with each other. They walk around wearing the tag of "Happy Couple".
What is the remedy? - It is better to first understand that marriage is not inevitable that it should be imposed on someone. A lot happens in life other than marriage. It should be a personal decision. Others themselves are only advisors Keep it limited and not force it. Secondly, marriage should happen when both the boy and the girl are mentally and financially mature and self-sufficient. Apart from this, it is more important than matching the birth chart to have a physical examination of both, otherwise serious diseases and things should be hidden. It is common to marry fraudulently. Also, during the courtship period, both of them must take a professional marriage counselor's sitting. Which will not only develop mutual understanding but will also be able to tell whether they are fit to live as a couple or not. People will say that these are all new age gimmicks. Yes, this is a necessary thing of the new age. Earlier there were Sati system, child marriage, polygamy, female infanticide etc., ended today or not? Engagement, Jayamala ritual, reception Etc. used to happen not too long ago. Change is the rule of the world, provided it is positive. One should not hesitate to adopt a new thing, if it leads to a happy life. Let it happen. And problems related to marriage used to happen in the previous generation as well, just hiding the distance was more. So be aware and create. After all, accident prevention is good.